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Jesus walked away from toxic people and let them walk away from Him. We can learn to follow His example. For the first fifteen years of their marriage they served the church in two dramatically different ways. Both David and Ginny had gifts for ministry, loved people, and felt honored to serve the same congregation. David was the pastor and Ginny led the music ministry and adult education. Their mission was the same, but they responded to toxic people in totally different ways. When they started at their first church, a woman came at Ginny like a heat-seeking missile.
She was clearly needy and explained to Ginny that she wanted an ability partner, a friend, a shoulder to cry on, and someone to call at any time, day or night when she was in need. This woman was certain that the Lord wanted Ginny to be that person. So, Ginny made the commitment and jumped into a relationship that lasted fifteen long and painful years. This woman demanded everything and gave nothing back. She would call at all hours and expect Ginny to drop everything, even the care of her children, to listen, pray, and help her manage whatever issue she was facing.
When Ginny would try to establish barriers, the woman would declare that Ginny was not loving, not caring, and maybe not even a Christian. She would share this with anyone who would listen. Over time, this woman began declaring to anyone who would listen that no one at the church cared about her or did anything to help her. During this same decade and a half, David also encountered a handful of toxic people in their church. They would make demands of him and he would smile and let them know that it was not his job to be their personal counselor, to meet all of their needs, to be their best Jesus walking away, or to come to Jesus walking away event they felt he should attend.
Instead of being controlled by a few super-needy, angry, and highly demanding people, David invested that time in two or three leaders each year. He would identify those who were mature leaders that needed some coaching and encouragement and he would pour into them. David also had a gift for finding younger and upcoming leaders and helping them sharpen their gifts, grow in prayer, and learn to serve Jesus in the church and the marketplace.
When David and Ginny accepted a call to move to a Jesus walking away church, they took time to evaluate their ministry. David was thankful that he had the honor of preaching and leading the congregation, but he told Ginny that one of his greatest joys was seeing several leaders take serious steps forward in their love for God, service in the church, and their passion for living out faith in their home and in the workplace.
Ginny told David that she celebrated the growth in the music ministry and the adult classes. But, sadly, she had not really invested in developing many leaders. Christians have the tendency of thinking that walking away from anyone or letting anyone walk away from them is a failure on their part. If you or your group members are just getting to know one another, take a few minutes to introduce yourselves. Then, to kick things off, discuss one of the following questions:. As you watch the video teaching segment for this session, use the following outline to record any thoughts or concepts that stand out to you.
By definition, focusing on some people requires us to occasionally walk away from others. Take a few minutes with your group members to discuss what you just watched and explore these concepts in Scripture. Tell about a toxic person who has intersected your life. Be sensitive about using a name or recognizable details in this setting. How has their behavior and attitudes impacted your life?
What is it that causes us to keep playing offense and refuse to walk away from a toxic person? How can being a Christian and looking only at the compassion of Jesus keep a person from walking away? The hearts of some people were not changed by the actual Messiah when He walked on this earth… so who are we to think that our efforts can fix every broken person we encounter? Then, to kick things off, discuss one of the following questions: What attitudes and behaviors release a person like David to be fruitful and impactful in ministry and life?
Sometimes walking away is the best way to defend the good work God is calling us to do. What are some of the possible consequences if we refuse to walk away from a toxic person? Relational consequences: Spiritual consequences: Emotional consequences: Physical consequences: Tell about how you or someone close to you has faced some of these consequences. Read Matthew — How can following this call of Jesus set the course of our lives including our relational Jesus walking away on the right path?
How can the behavior and expectations of a toxic person get in the way of us following this essential call of Jesus for all of His people? How have you seen the pressures of a toxic person keep a sincere Christian yourself or someone else from fully following the plans of Jesus? Read 2 Timothy —2. Inspired by the Holy Spirit, the apostle Paul tells the young pastor Timothy to invest what he is learning into the lives of some reliable and qualified Jesus walking away. Why is it critical that all of us hear this call to invest in a few faithful and receptive people?
Who is one person you feel God has placed in your life that you can invest in and help grow deeper in faith, and how can your group members pray for you as you seek to do this? This crowd could have marveled at the power of Jesus. They could have fallen on their faces and worshiped the Lord of glory. Instead, they asked Him to leave their region. Why do you think they responded this way? How did Jesus respond to this request and why do you think He responded this way?
Read John —59 Jesus walking away Matthew — How did Jesus respond in these conflicted and unhealthy situations? How can Jesus be our example when we are around people who are toxic Jesus walking away dangerous? How can walking away be the most godly and honoring thing we can do? Jesus told His followers that there were times and situations where they should flee.
What is keeping you from walking away and what would help you take this step of faith and walk away with Jesus? Ask the Holy Spirit to Jesus walking away you recognize and identify people in your life or the lives of those you love who are truly toxic. Ask for courage to embrace the idea that one of the godliest things you can do is walk away from toxic people, so you have the time and energy to invest in receptive and hungry people.
Invite your heavenly Father to comfort and care for Jesus walking away of your group members who shared the pain and struggle they have faced because of a toxic person in their life. Like the article? Share it! Related posts.Jesus walking away
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